quoteJul 20, 2013 3:55 pm
A List of “Men’s Rights” Issues That Feminism Is Already Working On
Feminists do not want you to lose custody of your children. The assumption that women are naturally better caregivers is part of patriarchy.
Feminists do not like commercials in which bumbling dads mess up the laundry and competent wives have to bustle in and fix it. The assumption that women are naturally better housekeepers is part of patriarchy.
Feminists do not want you to have to make alimony payments. Alimony is set up to combat the fact that women have been historically expected to prioritize domestic duties over professional goals, thus minimizing their earning potential if their “traditional” marriages end. The assumption that wives should make babies instead of money is part of patriarchy.
Feminists do not want anyone to get raped in prison. Permissiveness and jokes about prison rape are part of rape culture, which is part of patriarchy.
Feminists do not want anyone to be falsely accused of rape. False rape accusations discredit rape victims, which reinforces rape culture, which is part of patriarchy.
Feminists do not want you to be lonely and we do not hate “nice guys.” The idea that certain people are inherently more valuable than other people because of superficial physical attributes is part of patriarchy.
Feminists do not want you to have to pay for dinner. We want the opportunity to achieve financial success on par with men in any field we choose (and are qualified for), and the fact that we currently don’t is part of patriarchy. The idea that men should coddle and provide for women, and/or purchase their affections in romantic contexts, is condescending and damaging and part of patriarchy.
Feminists do not want you to be maimed or killed in industrial accidents, or toil in coal mines while we do cushy secretarial work and various yarn-themed activities. The fact that women have long been shut out of dangerous industrial jobs (by men, by the way) is part of patriarchy.
Feminists do not want you to commit suicide. Any pressures and expectations that lower the quality of life of either gender are part of patriarchy. The fact that depression is characterized as an effeminate weakness, making men less likely to seek treatment, is part of patriarchy.
Feminists do not want you to be viewed with suspicion when you take your child to the park (men frequently insist that this is a serious issue, so I will take them at their word). The assumption that men are insatiable sexual animals, combined with the idea that it’s unnatural for men to care for children, is part of patriarchy.
Feminists do not want you to be drafted and then die in a war while we stay home and iron stuff. The idea that women are too weak to fight or too delicate to function in a military setting is part of patriarchy.
Feminists do not want women to escape prosecution on legitimate domestic violence charges, nor do we want men to be ridiculed for being raped or abused. The idea that women are naturally gentle and compliant and that victimhood is inherently feminine is part of patriarchy.
Feminists hate patriarchy. We do not hate you.
If you really care about those issues as passionately as you say you do, you should be thanking feminists, because feminism is a social movement actively dedicated to dismantling every single one of them. The fact that you blame feminists—your allies—for problems against which they have been struggling for decades suggests that supporting men isn’t nearly as important to you as resenting women. We care about your problems a lot. Could you try caring about ours?"
textJul 04, 2013 1:33 pm
This weekend, conservative Texas Republican Rep. Jodie Laubenberg explained that, “In the emergency room they have what’s called rape kits where a woman can get cleaned out.” She said this while participating in an anti-abortion debate in the Texas legislature this weekend. This was how she objected to proposed rape and incest exemptions to one of the most restrictive anti-abortion positions in the nation. So, apparently, it’s that time of the year again. The one where we have to say out loud that facts are empirically verifiable things that make sentences true. Even when women’s endlessly magical bodies and rape are involved.
10 Facts About Rape Kits
1. A rape kit is a forensic tool used to collect evidence of sexual assault.
2. A rape kit is not an abortion.
3. A rape kit does not “clean out” a woman. Machines get cleaned out. Human beings don’t.
4. A rape kit is used during a hospital examination, hopefully conducted by a trained member of asexual assault response team (SART). The process includes the collection of DNA evidence like hair, semen, saliva taken from the victim’s skin, nails, clothing, and genitals. This exam includes oral and rectal exams.
5. As part of the collection of evidence, and the medical exam — not performed by untrained legislators — a doctor will also order STD testing and provide a morning after pill to prevent pregnancy. It always bears repeating that the morning after pill isnot an abortion in a pill.
6. While difficult, frightening and re-traumatizing for most people who have just experienced rape and assault, collection of rape kit evidence is crucially important to the successful prosecution of rapists.
7. Rape kit evidence collection is important, but useless unless the kits are tested. Testing rape kits stops predatory rapists from raping again.
8. We don’t take rape serious. There are 400,000 untested rape kits languishing in evidence rooms around the United States. There are 20,000 UNTESTED rape kits in Texas alone. Does this mean that 20,000 women’s abortions are waiting to happen in sealed boxes across the state? No.
9. A rape kit is not a D and C, which is short for dilation and curettage, a medical procedure conducted by trained medical professionals on behalf of patients, all women, who need to end pregnancies. I know, a French, word. It’s ok. D and Cs are, however, performed in Texas, too, usually when a woman is facing a nonviable pregnancy.
10. A rape kit does not cause, prevent or end a pregnancy. Doctors, those are people who go to school to study medicine and biology, can back me up on this.
BONUS: We live in what is called a “rape-prone” society. Not all humans do.
quoteJun 24, 2013 10:16 am
quoteJun 11, 2013 8:27 pm
Let me be clear: I don’t believe that previously non-raping audience members are going to take to the streets in a rape mob after hearing one rape joke. That’s an absurd and insulting mischaracterization. But I do believe that comedy’s current permissiveness around cavalier, cruel, victim-targeting rape jokes contributes to (that’s contributes—not causes) a culture of young men who don’t understand what it means to take this stuff seriously.
And how did they try and prove me wrong? How did they try to demonstrate that comedy, in general, doesn’t have issues with women? By threatening to rape and kill me, telling me I’m just bitter because I’m too fat to get raped, and suggesting that the debate would have been better if it had just been Jim raping me.
This isn’t just coming from anonymous trolls. Local comics — whom I know and work with — have told me to shut the fuck up. One hopes I’ll fall down a flight of stairs. (He later apologized—to my boyfriend, not me.)"LINDY WEST, writing on Jezebel, “If Comedy Has No Lady Problem, Then Why Am I Getting So Many Rape Threats?” (via inothernews)
textMay 26, 2013 6:48 pm
By ALEX ALVAREZ
Former MLB outfielder, current economic wiz, future vampire, and dog vomit connoisseur Jose Canseco is very, very, very good at the internet. As such, we’ve decided to celebrate his wit and insight with a recurring look at his best tweets, this and every week. Please enjoy.
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